Embrace the Solitude.
Have you ever caught yourself talking to you ? There are like millions of voices inside your head, creating a mess leaving you helpless while you are trying to focus on something particular that requires your immediate attention ? You feel worried that you have no one to share your thoughts, or you feel like people don’t really understand what you are trying to convey ? You tend to get annoying while communicating or you overshare as soon as someone lends you an ear only to feel more miserable at the end, that you overshared ?
In this article, I will share how my loneliness actually evolved into Solitude which helped me overcome my limitations that actually required immediate attention. What steps I took to overcome my loneliness.
- Change the Environment around you.
I can comfortably sit in my room, all quiet, solely focussing on what is important, deviating all my energy into positive tasks. I call my room my fortress of Solitude. Being a Software developer, I have a deep and unconditional love for gadgets. My room is filled with it. It creates an aura of positivity around me. I feel proud and get a sense of accomplishment when I enter my room. This is the first step. Declutter your space and/or fill it with something that you find extremely positive. It should make sense to you. It should generate peace for you.
2. Start a Journal.
The best thing that I have ever done is starting a Journal. Your Journal is your best friend. You can be honest with your Journal, write down your feelings, tell everything minute details that bothers you and you will see that burden getting off your chest slowly and gradually.
3. It is not always loneliness.
I started getting worried that I don’t have people to talk to, I am unable to express myself, I failed at relationship attempt, how can I ever live with it, I am so lonely and blah blah! but ……. it was not it. My loneliness was derived from a fact that I didn’t have any major goals to work upon. I was so stuck with these useless feelings, this exact feeling of loneliness that I lost my purpose. Your lack of purpose in your life contributes to these shitty feelings too.
When I reflected back on my limitations, which happened in the same atmosphere where I felt lonely, when I started realizing that this is not how I am supposed to feel, I am far greater than these feelings, that I am myself responsible for what I am feeling was the day my loneliness was evolved into solitude. Now, the time that I used to hate sitting alone in my room is the time I actually enjoy focussing on things far more important. Solitude has helped me channel my energy into postives and helped me deeply deviating from negatives. It is always you who decides. I keep learning new stuff. I read books. I have developed this habit of writing. I started Journaling. I started all the things that made sense to me.
I hope someone who reads it may find it helpful. Do leave your thoughts in the comment section. I am always open for improvement.
